Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Monday, August 1, 2016

It's Hard Being A Parent To A Parent

Grandson and my Mother 2014

     My Grandmother was forty-four years old when she had my Mother in 1934. My Mother's youngest sister was six years old and her oldest sister was twenty-nine. My Aunt Edna said they spoiled her rotten. Still, it wasn't an easy life. She had nieces and nephews older than her and had to compete for Grandma's and Grandpa's attention.
     My Mom only finished the eighth grade, but in her thirties she studied and took the GED test for her diploma so she could apply for jobs that needed a high school education. She has a strong personality, a choleric temperament, which means her way was pretty much what she expected. Now me, I'm melancholic and phlegmatic. After I became an adult, this caused problems because the more she pushed, the more I dug in my heels. 
     My Mom is now eighty-five and has done great until the last few months when it has been apparent she's losing her memory and her mobility is getting restricted. At her insistence, she still lives in her apartment, even though we've tried to get her to move into a retirement home. I know that letting go of that last bit if independence is hard.
     My Mom has known her Bible forever, so it surprised me when last Friday, the 22nd, she asked me a question from her favorite book, Revelation. And then this past Friday, the 29th, she asked me another question. It shocked me and made me pause and realize in just two weeks her health was getting worse, I even wondered if maybe she had suffered a mini stroke. 
     It's hard watching a parent's health decline.  

Saturday, July 30, 2016

Growing Up In Rural Alabama and Georgia

My Grandmother Manila and cousin, 1914-1916

Hilley's and Harper's 1917

Turner Family 1913

VanBuren, Peggy Boseman Tatum Family
One son of Riley Tatum, 1900

     From the above pictures it was really hard living in the rural areas of Georgia and Alabama. The top two are located in Alabama while the bottom two are in Georgia. Living without indoor water, bathroom and a washing machine. I think it interesting that most of the clothes are black and white, talk about showing dust and dirt.
     In the picture of the Hilley's and Harper's, my great grandpa William Ershel Hilley had a disabled left leg. In all of his pictures, he either was sitting, standing leaning against something or as in this picture he has his leg draped over a log and supported by his crutch. 
     In the Tatum, this was my ggUncle Van Buren Tatum, he lost his right arm "above the elbow" during the Civil War. If you look close, you can tell. He and his wife Peggy, applied for war injury help in 1879, he received $60.00.
     During this time it wasn't unusual to have many children. In farming, there was always a need for more hands, plus long cold winters and no birth control products.
     It was up at 4:00 am to milk the cows and feed the livestock; eat breakfast and head out to the fields. Or maybe cooking and sewing. No electricity, it was all done by daylight, candles or kerosene lamps.
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Kerosene lamps borrowed from Google free pictures

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Notice the silver plate used to reflect more light-
borrowed from Google free pictures

Friday, April 5, 2013

Ancestry.Com and Linking Ancestors?




     I have this question that I can't come up with an answer, "Do I link ancestors on my Family Tree while I determine if they're really related"?
     I have a second cousin that began researching our family last year. She invited me to look at her tree, so I did. I immediately found that she was adding people that I knew weren't from our DNA testing and belonged to another group, no way related to us. When I pointed this out her reply was that they have members named the same as some of ours. Which was true, so I pointed her to our DNA member page so that she was able to see all 144 names from testing that our administrators have divided into groups. Each group is related. William is a popular name in my family, yet if you look in the other groups, you'll see it was a popular name all the way back to the 1500's. 
     This brings me to my original question, do you use your Ancestry.com tree to work from, knowing others link to that tree? I bought the 2012 Family Tree Maker, but it's not as easy to use as the online tree linking. Bottom line is to ask for backup  from those you're linking with and to come back and verify the information you copied hasn't changed. Paper trails are very important. 
     I'm very excited at the moment, as I've been trying to track how some of our closest relatives moved from England/Ireland to South Carolina to Mississippi. It was in trying to prove this link that I hit on an answer. Edmund Harper came from England/Ireland to South Carolina, where he had sons/grandsons Edward Sr who for some reason moved to Mississippi, while others moved to Georgia. The chase is on!
Larry, Susan and Judy 1954
"I'm proud of that missing tooth!"


Thursday, September 6, 2012

Dad, Daughter, Hug Equals Priceless Moment


Last time Dad saw Daughter, about a year ago!

CH on Florida Beach, sees Dad
for first time in over a year

Dad reaches daughter


The Hug! Priceless moment

     Have you ever noticed, it doesn't matter how old your children become, after they've been away from home for an extended time, there's the joy of finally seeing them again. That hug is always welcomed. Plus, each hug is always the best. As you can see from the pictures above, this was the case between my brother and niece.
     CH has been living in Oman, and fortunately, as you can tell from the top picture, Dad and Mom did manage a visit in 2011, but hasn't seen her since until she returned in August of this year. They were very happy to see each other. Unfortunately, I wasn't there for the Mom and CH reunion, but I know it went in a similar fashion.
     Do you have similar priceless moments?

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Genealogy-Have You Ever Smoked Rabbit Tobacco?


Rabbit Tobacco Plant

Rabbit Tobacco Plant- I borrowed this picture


     I think we get so caught up finding stories and history of our Great-Great Grandpa or Grandma that we forget about our stories and history.  To our kids and grandkids, this is more relevant than way back when! Have you ever sat down and thought about when you were growing up? The funny situations you sometimes found yourself or what about your siblings?
     Have y'all ever heard of Rabbit Tobacco? I know there's a technical name, but it wasn't one we used. I also know that it has medicinal purposes, but that wasn't what we used it for.  I also know that it isn't marijuana. Above are pictures of the plant, with the bottom picture being what I want to talk about.
     I guess I was between twelve and thirteen, and my brother Larry eleven and twelve. My sisters were a lot younger, Susan probably was seven and Pam was four. We were living at the Big Woods on the mountain above Trenton, Georgia.  It's fall when the plants are drying up and the leaves are turning and preparing to fall off. We were wearing sweaters, so it must have been cool. If I was twelve or thirteen, that made it 1960 or 1961.  We were crossing a field, swinging sticks, talking when we spotted the Rabbit Tobacco. I'm not sure who suggested going into the house for a large brown grocery bag.  The kind they bagged your purchases in at A & P. They weren't thrown away, but placed under the sink for your garbage. So there we were with a pair of scissors and the grocery bag and matches.  Larry and I cut us a section of paper, pulled the dry leaves from the plant.  We rolled the  leaves back and forth between our hands until it was about the size of a cigar.  We then placed the tobacco at one end of the paper and rolled, like we'd seen our Dad, uncles and aunts do, into a huge cigarette! I think rolling it was half the fun. I don't remember Susan doing one, Pam for sure didn't. Larry and I each took a match and lit one end, then took a puff off of it. Now think about that dry paper bag and those dry leaves! Talk about a coughing spell! I'm surprised we didn't suck fire into our lungs! I can't say the taste was very good either.  I don't remember if we did smaller puffs and smoked the whole things, or just held it with the tips of our fingers trying not to breathe in any more smoke. I can say, it wasn't something I ever did again.
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Monday, May 7, 2012

I Hate Change OR Is It Just Getting Older?

Aunt Maune last woman on right, taken 1949-50
Uncle Burnum and Aunt Maune 1948
Aunt Maune and Uncle Bernum
Aunt Maune 2005

     The thing about my Dad's side of the family is that they loved each other and enjoyed being around each other. Spouses and all!  I remember visiting aunts and uncles for homemade ice cream or just sitting around talking. It was fun times, particularly from a child's point of view. But then hindsight is always better than foresight.  Oh to be able to go back to those times. That's the thing about growing older, the loss of those childhood gatherings.
     My dad was the oldest child in his family, then came my Uncle Burnum.  And with Uncle Burnum his wife Aunt Maune.  She turned eight-eight this past April. She's had knee problems and other health issues that place her in a scooter.   Speaking of the scooter, Aunt Maune only lives a half a block from her church where we've held the family reunion for the past couple of years.  The last one I attended, I was driving down the road when I spied her in her scooter driving down to the church.  It was funny and touching at the same time. I bet she's only four feet and a few inches tall, white haired.  Here she is sitting like she's driving a car, rolling along, by herself to the church. She is one determined person. But for all of her health issues she still enjoys life and her family. Talk about one loved person, even by those outside her immediate family.
     This past Tuesday, Aunt Maune had a stroke. She was flown from Fort Payne to UAB, I bet, under other circumstances, she would have gotten a kick out of it!  There is some speech problems and an inability to use her right side.  But thankfully, she's aware of her surroundings and the people who visit her.  When people say "I love you", she responds the same. They're moving her to a convalescent home to help; with her rehab, so hopefully, she will be able to get back to her physical self or close to it any way. There were eight siblings, with one dying at childbirth. Out of the seven and their spouses, the youngest, Aunt Nell, my Mom and Aunt Maune are still here. I know, I don't really want time to stop and stay where we are, but there are times I'd like for it to move a little slower!

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Genealogy-"Have You Ever Dipped Snuff?"

Grandma Verdi   about 1970

     Verdi Coleman Harper, was my Grandpa Harper's second wife.  His first wife was Manila Hilley Harper. When they were young women, Manila and Verdi were good friends and both had a crush on Grandpa.  But Grandpa asked Manila to be his wife and they were married and had eight children with one dying, Bertha the youngest. It was sixteen years after Grandma Manila died that he decided to marry again, and this time he chose Verdi Coleman who had never married nor had any children. I've often wondered if she felt Grandpa was her soul mate and since she couldn't marry him she decided never to marry.
     I'm not sure when I found out that Grandma Verdi was a second wife. Not that it mattered. She was the only grandmother I ever knew on my Dad's side. Usually you called your grandparents grandma and grandpa, but for some reason, Grandma Verdi was always known as Grandma Verdi, maybe that's what she told us to call her, I really don't know.
     One thing about Grandma Verdi was that she loved to dip snuff. She had it down as an art, cutting herself sassafras brushes, then cutting them to the correct length, about five inches the length of an eye shadow brush.  Then she'd take one and chew on the end for a while, then take it out of her mouth and twirl it in her hand until the end was the perfect brush. When it reached this stage, she'd put it in her mouth while she opened her small tin can of American snuff or maybe it was W. E. Garrett & Sons. Then she'd take her brush and twirl it in the can. Building up the snuff ball on the end, once she had it at the perfect size, she'd pop it into her mouth. Let me tell you, when she needed to spit, she'd place her index and middle finger in a "v" over her mouth and spit. She'd aim and it would go four yards or more!
     In the summers, my brother and I would leave the big city of Rossville, Georgia to stay with Grandpa and Grandma Verdi and get to reacquaint ourselves with our cousins on Sand Mountain. I have such fond memories of those times, except for this one hot summer.  I guess I was between ten and twelve.  It was mid afternoon. Grandma Verdi was sitting on the porch dipping her snuff and several of us kids were watching.  Over the years we'd asked to dip some of her snuff and she'd tell us no, but I guess she got tired of us pestering her. 
     We had to go find our own brushes and go through her ritual of preparing them.  Being novices, getting the brush ready almost made us regret asking.  The green cover breaking off in our mouths, the texture of the twig.  Finally, they were ready.  She held her can out for each of us, telling us to really load that brush up, then stick it in our mouths.  Now, remember, it's a July day in the South, Alabama to be exact. Our hair was wet from sweating, the sun was glaring down, no breeze, just us, the snuff and our stomachs. After a few minutes, the expression, "You look kinda green", fit all of us. Another few minutes and we were sick to our stomachs.  Needless to say, none of us ever pestered her again to dip her snuff. As a matter of fact, it was a while before I could watch her go through her dipping routine.
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  In Genealogy, I think it's so important to write down as much family history as possible.  This includes your childhood memories, especially these memories.  Have you started your own family storybook? When you get together with your cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents, do you listen to their stories? For your information, write them down. You will treasure them!
Grandpa Harper and Grandma Verdi 1960's
Grandpa, Grandma Verdi, my Aunt Mavis Harper and my 
second cousin Ann Hilley. A picture of when they were younger, 1950's.



Thursday, April 12, 2012

Bird Watching With A Grandson!

My grandson SB don't you just love his freckles?

     I love bird watching.  Some mornings I will sit at my kitchen table while I'm eating breakfast and watch them.  I have a bird feeder hanging so my cats can watch as well.  It's amazing how many different breeds you can see just looking out your window.  Especially in the spring when they're headed north and in the fall when they're headed south. Even though my grandson lives 750 miles away, I thought we could bird watch together. His sister and my daughter have a cell phone, so I talk to them, but he doesn't, so I thought we could send emails to each other, sharing about the birds we've seen and learn the different breeds.This would be our way of talking and communicating.
     I had this brilliant idea to buy him some binoculars and have them sent directly to him. He loves gadgets! He received them today, and I have to say, if he never uses them again, he got his money's worth! He started texting me at six o'clock sharing what he had seen, he even took photos on my daughter's cell phone and sent them to me. For two hours we have shared messages and pictures! I think I'm going to like this! 
It snows in the Midwest where he lives!
Bob the squirrel on my deck!

Sunday, January 8, 2012

SHE WAS HERE FOR SUCH A SHORT TIME-PAM'S BIRTHDAY!

My sister Pam 01/08/1956-03/25/2004

I'm eight years older than my sister Pam.  She was the youngest of the four of us.  I remember her as a happy child.  When she found something really funny, she would laugh and we would want to laugh with her.  She had her own unique laughter.

She went to school and graduated, though it was very difficult for her.  In the fifties, there weren't any special schools for slow learners.  Not that we really ever thought about it.  She was just Pam, not very good in school.


Pam 1963-64 age 7-8
Pam 1963-64 age 7-8

When Pam was a toddler, she would sit on the floor against a wall and bang the back of her head against it.  Mom took her to a doctor, but they were never able to find the cause of why she would do this.  As she grew older she would stop doing it, but then there came a time when she would sit and rock.

When she was younger, she was a social person, but as the years went by, she withdrew and found it difficult to be out in public and even be around noise. She did graduate from high school, but was unable to hold down a job.  The older she became the more difficult it became for her to interact with people, to the point that she lived to watch TV, particularly soap operas. She did manage to pass her driving test to acquire a license. She even married for a time, but as she aged the more advanced her illness became, whatever the illness was.  The doctors were never able to give us a diagnosis.  Eventually Mom and my stepdad had to take her car away from her as one day she started to where she lived and ended up in another state, three days later.  The Tennessee police had stopped her because she was driving erratically and dangerously.  She seemed confused, she thought she was in Alabama, but couldn't find her street. She lived with my Mom and stepdad for a time. Then from 1990 to 1993, she lived with me.  In 1993, she moved back in with my Mom, and a short time with my brother.  Eventually, her care became a 24 hour need.  My Mom had to place her in a nursing home as she wasn't able to give her the physical help needed.

Pam died March 25th, 2004.  We had an autopsy performed to see if there could be a determination of what her illness was.  They still weren't able to put a name to it, but the conclusions were that before she was born, something triggered a gene that would age her brain, not her body, just her brain.  It wasn't hereditary, just something triggered a particular gene in her. The illness progressed faster and more advanced the older she became, particularly in her forties.

She was a loving person, I regret that we didn't and couldn't understand her illness.  I wish that it had been easier for her because the last few years of her life were in silent pain.  She was unable to communicate, except with her eyes.

Here is a fond memory from our sister Susan:

 Judy and I were talking a couple of years back on Pam's birthday after she had died, we were taking about missing her. I told Judy I was sad earlier that morning when I began thinking about Pam. I told Judy I remembered how much she loved playing Bingo and I could see her and Daddy playing it together in heaven...her nails all pretty and painted, and we all know how much she loved Elvis. When she would hear him singing in heaven, she would probably get up and walk over to him,  pat him on his arm,  smile and tell him that they have the same birthday.  I can see her happy and laughing.  Just wanted everyone to take a minute and remember her laughter and for all of us to smile remembering her today on her birthday.   

Here is a fond memory from her nephew Larry:

Well I can remember the time she came to the house and was holding me down on the couch, then jumping and sitting on my head suffocating me until I couldn’t breath.lol Then on the way over to her house (after being traumatized lol) another one of her songs come on “Woo Woo Pussy Cat” and she was just yelling and singing right along with it!!!! Lol

My most favorite memory of her smiling was when she was playing bingo, and going to the nursing home in Collinsville to see her about every other week. She would just light up every time we walked thru that door, always asking about everyone else. You just don’t realize how special those times are, until they're gone and then you look back.

P.S. I will never forget the time we were over at their house and Ronald’s relatives were picking on us. She came walking down the road to where we were, and picked up the front of the go-cart that they were sitting in and flipped it over!!!!!

Larry J

Her niece Tasha had this response:

Oh my gosh Larry, I had forgoten all about the go- cart. She was so mad. LOL That was great though. She loved everyone.



Tasha

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PAM!!!!! (pink was her favorite color)
1971 10th Grade




1975 Graduation Hazel Green High School




1987

Wish you could be here with us today! You are missed!

Saturday, April 23, 2011

Aren't Nieces and Nephews Great!




 I have a good group of nieces and nephews. Actually two nieces and seven nephews.  My sister Susan has a daughter and four sons, and my brother Larry has a daughter and three sons.  All are smart and have done a lot with their lives such as putting themselves through college or serving in the peace corp.

It's exciting to watch them grow up and see what they're doing.  Today I received a phone call from my niece CH who's in the diplomat service and posted at a middle east country.  Both of us love to read and I had the pleasure of introducing her to great authors over the years.  It's curious how they choose their interests. CH is great at languages.  She can speak French, Spanish and Arabic, her favorite, I think. She takes after her Mom and Dad in so many ways.  When she and her Dad get together, be prepared for debates and political arguments, though why they love the politics, I don't know,  since both believe the same things.  I think it's just a way to spar.  Keep each other on their toes. She and her Mom love to travel and see the world. 

Anyway, it was great talking with her and seeing through hearing about a part of the world I've never visited.  She says the locale is very modern and without the scenery almost like being in America.  Though she appreciates and takes advantage of the sights. Even watching her Dad ride a camel! 

     

Sunday, September 19, 2010

A Nephew to Be Proud Of!

  




Carl-Iraq

Today, I want to talk about my nephew Carl, who's in the Air Force, stationed in Iraq.  He's an air controller. I believe he's a Master Sargent.  I'm proud of him, also a little pleased that he followed me in the Air Force, I mean he could have chosen the Army, Marines or Navy.

He's always had that outgoing personality. Plus, being the oldest, he's always had that family responsibility. He's married, with two lovely children. I'm going to tell his story in pictures, I hope you enjoy!

 


Just wanted you to know, THANKS, for being in Iraq, and your
Aunt Dee loves you!

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Clifford Harper and children (Turners), contd(part 3)



Great-Grandmother Martha(Tatum) Turner
Frances (Tatum)Turner's mother
Vernell (Turner) (Harper) (King) Pike's grandmother
Picture taken 1940


Uncle Jim & Aunt Agnes (Turner) Fowler


Grandpa Esley Turl and Frances (Tatum) Turner 1944

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Poochie, Tabby, Judy, Clifford and Larry

As I stated before, when Grandpa worked, they didn't have social security.  So when he had to retire, he and Grandma moved in with my Aunt Agnes and Uncle Jim.  Aunt Agnes was twenty-nine years older than my mother. This meant she was born in 1902, somewhere in Georgia.  She and Uncle Jim had eleven children.  I remember their family as being a happy group.  A few of their children was older than my mom, their Aunt.  


In 2007 I visited the old house. As I walked around the house snapping pictures, I thought how the house had fallen into such disarray. I felt so sad as I have such fond memories of this house.  It didn't take me very long to walk around the house, it didn't look as large as I remember.  I glimpsed a bit of the old veranda that wound around the outside.  As a child of four or five, I remember playing out on it, walking from one side to the other seemed to take forever..

When the house was built, it came with a wide hallway down the middle with the bedrooms on one side, while the kitchen, dinningroom and livingroom were on the other. The hallway allowed wind to blow through and keep it cool during the summer.  In the winter, it was easier to heat the side were the family ate and stayed during the daylight hours. At night, you got ready for bed near the fire, warming the sleeping gown, then made a mad dash to bed so the warm gown would heat it up.  You were lucky if you got a feather bed. That way, you would sink down and be warm.  Having a bed to oneself was unheard of. In the winter, this was a welcomed thing.  I can remember when we visited, usually, all the family came.  We would drive in from Georgia and so would others.  Sometimes there would be four or five girls in one bed. We'd giggle into the night.  Catching up on what had happened in our lives since the last time we saw each other.

I remember my Grandpa sitting around whittling.  He never created anything, he'd start in the morning with a stick, he just sat there taking his knife and slowly drawing it along, a shaving would curl than drop.  He'd start again, curl and drop.  By the end of the day, the stick would be gone and on the ground would be a pile of thin wood shavings, beautifully curled so that it looked like a huge bloom on a flower. I would pick up one of the shavings and stare at it.  You remember the old hand cranked pencil sharpeners? As the pencil was sharpened, the wood would come off in a curl.  His shavings were similar.  Before he retired, he worked at a grist mill and a saw mill.  A grist mill is where they ground grain to make flour.

I loved my Grandma.  She was a stocky woman, not fat, just the right size for a Grandma.  She had strong arms, I guess from working in the fields and washing clothes by hand.  We lived with them for a while.  She smiled and laughed a lot.  I remember many days in the fall of riding on her cotton picking sack.  You ever seen a cotton picking sack?  They're about six feet long, with one end completely sewn together and the other end open with a strap attached.  She would place the strap across her head, down to her shoulders.  Once she had picked enough cotton to fill the bag half full, she would let me sit on it pulling me along as she walked down the row, pulling and stuffing.  They would empty the cotton into a small wagon, then unload the wagon onto the porch.  Once there was enough cotton to fill a larger wagon, it would be taken to the gin and sold.  I use to love to lay in the piled cotton, smell it and roll on it.  It smelled so clean and raw, yet be soft and fluffy.

There were so many secret places and wonderful objects in the house.  On the mantel there was a clear domed clock, about twelve inches tall.  Inside the dome a dial with a large and small pointer to show the time.  At the bottom of the dial, a gold wheel spun first one way and then the other.  On the hour, a chime sounded, like a tiny bell.

Aunt Agnes waxed her floors with melted paraffin, then buffed with a cloth until it glistened like ice. And when there weren't any adults looking, the kids would run and slide across the floor in our socks. Many a summer day we would sit on the swing hung from the ceiling of the veranda, shucking corn or stringing beans and peas.


Vernell (Mom), Clifford, (Dad) Judy and Larry, 1951

I remember the day we moved to Rossville, Georgia.  I sat in the front seat with Mom and Dad.  We followed one of the pick-up trucks filled with our furniture. One of the sheets that covered the furniture, came loose and began to flap in the wind.  I could see my little rocking chair.  The whole drive up I worried it would fall off and be broken in pieces.  It was a child's red rocking chair. We did finally arrive at the house we were to rent, without one piece of furniture falling off.

After the people who helped us move left, Larry, who was three or four, and I, who was four or five, were sitting out on the cement porch when we spied a lit cigarette.  We decided to pick it up and smoke it.  The smoke burned our eyes and caused us to cough.  We looked up and saw Mom and Dad standing there.  They were laughing at us. I never was able to take up smoking. Which I'm grateful for.
Me, Tabby the cat, Poochie, Larry

I remember the bathroom of the house had wallpaper covered with red American Beauty roses. To begin with, there was a small livingroom, which led to a kitchen, which led to the master bedroom.  The bathroom was off of the bedroom.  I think there was a huge closet at the end of the bedroom.  I can't remember where mine and my brother's bedroom was.  The master bedroom had a backdoor which opened onto a long cement porch, painted a royal blue. Grandpa Turner and Dad eventually built another room onto the cement porch.  I remember we had a potbellied stove in this room, which warmed it so much that it was stifling.  I'm not sure how or why, but Larry pulled a pot of hot water off the stove.  It scalded his leg really bad.

Mother was pregnant with Susan when we moved to Rossville, Georgia. Grandpa Turner came to live with us a while.  This was during the time he built the extra room and when Dad injured his arm.
Larry, Susan, Judy February 24, 1954

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Saturday and Family History


Larry with Poochie at Grandpa & Grandma Turner's home place, about 1952-53

Larry with Poochie

Me & Larry, Grandpa & Grandma's old home place, 1952

I don't know why we were living with our grandparents, at Fyffe, Alabama,  in 1952.  I think it had to do with Dad traveling around digging water wells.  The highpoints of  of while we were living there are only a few.  Aside from having fun on the picked cotton that they placed on the front porch, waiting for a full load to take to the cotton gin, we lived there when someone was ill, probably Grandma, though I do remember her in the kitchen cooking and churning butter. I remember leaning against her as she sat churning.  We had great conversations, though I don't remember them, I do remember her talking with me and listening.  Watching her dip out the butter from the churn.  I'm sure, being a child, some of the conversations were about, "how is butter formed as you churn", and "why is there water left in the jug after you dip out the butter", "how long does it take to make butter?". There were even times I sat there pushed the "churn" up and down.  I can still remember the white texture of the butter and it's sweet taste.  Churned butter, did you know, is white, not creamy yellow.  

My grandparents house didn't have electricity. They used oil lamps and the fireplace, which was located in the livingroom.  I remember it being a large one, and I think there was a place even to hang a kettle.  A kettle to hold and cook pinto beans and stews.  In the evening, Grandpa Turner would shave in the kitchen.  He had this piece of a mirror on the wall where we had the wash stand.  The mirror had one corner broken off, and it was held on the wall with nails bent at each corner on top and underneath the bottom to form a frame. Hanging beside the mirror was a leather strap.  Grandpa shaved with a straight razor.  I can see him standing there, holding one end of the leather strap while he slowly slid the blade of the razor back and forth to sharpen it before he shaved.  He had a cup with his shaving cream, and a shaving brush sitting in it.  He's dampen the brush, stir around the cream until it frothed up, then he would smear it on the bottom section of his face. He'd hold up one side of his face, run the razor across his skin, rinse in the hand washing pan (drawing a blank on what this was called) with warm water, wipe the blade on a towel, then run across another section of his face. About that leather strap, I think we may have received a swipe across our backsides once or twice.  It must of not hurt too bad as I can't remember it, just remember being told we had.  

I remember Grandpa Turner as a quiet man.  He went about his day doing what was needed.  Be it picking cotton, repairing the house, feeding the farm animals, or going to the store. Living among a few females probably had a lot to do with that.  Also, I have a feeling my Mom and she were a lot alike.  They were the strong type.  Grandma was like the female matriarch. Her kids gathered around her, even as adults and all had an aggressive personality.  It's just in Grandma's era, the woman stayed at home and took care of the house and children. I do remember that Grandpa and Grandma loved each other.  I don't ever remember them being harsh with each other or having arguments.

One of the projects I hated doing while we lived with them was hog killing.  Every fall after the first frost, they'd bring out the old black pots.  Grandpa, my Dad and my Uncle Lloyd would kill the hogs to prepare the meat for winter.  Once the hogs were killed, they'd dip them in a pot of hot water to get rid of the hair on the skin so it didn't end up in the meat.  I hated that! I don't know if it was the smell or what, but I didn't like that part. Nor did I like stuffing the prepared sausage into the tubes of skin.  Now I don't remember if we bought this or if it was actually the hogs intestines.  I never have asked about this.  But I do remember the sausage grinder.  All silver and metal.  Stuffing cut whole meat into the top and it coming out as sausage.

Then we moved to Rossville, Georgia.  I didn't find out until I became an adult that the reason we moved is because Daddy got a job at Peerless in Rossville and Grandpa had retired.  Since there wasn't social security for him, he and Grandma moved in with my Aunt Agnes because they didn't have enough money to continue renting and living alone.

Esley and Frances (Tatum) Turner, 1940

Esley & Frances Turner (you can see the goiter on her neck that she had)

Where the old home place was located, Fyffe, Alabama

corner where old general store stood, Fyffe, Alabama

My Aunt Agnes & Uncle Jim's home where Grandpa & Grandma moved to. There was a veranda wrapped around the house. 
  
The veranda continues around

 and around

and around

back shot of the house
The old barn, between the house and barn use to stand an outhouse!