From my daughter's garden 2006
Yesterday, our Sunday School Lesson was a continuation of the book of Ruth. It has reached the point where Boaz is clearing the way for him to marry Ruth. During that era, if a woman became a widow, one of her kinsmen married her so that he could take care of her, plus have children to keep the line of her husband going. Did you ever wonder why Naomi didn't try to sell her land right away? I mean after all, when she first lost her husband and two sons, she lamented that she was empty, she didn't have anything, "Woe is Me!"
The point was brought up today that when something bad happens to us, we have a tendency to focus just on the badness of the situation, not on the good stuff that also is in our lives. I thought about this and I agree. I do tend to only think about "Poor Me". It's like I record my "pity me" thoughts and continually pop that tape back in and replay it over and over. I'm sure that this is part of a process, depending on the seriousness of what happened. Though I have seen some people remember events, hurt feelings and anger from 10 to 30 years ago. In dealing with the focus on our pity party, I think the trick is to after a period of time is to regroup, ask what I'm to learn from what happened and move on. Otherwise it eats me up on the inside. I find I waste so much time replaying the tape, creating different scenarios of what if I had done this or that. Even what if I hadn't done this and that.
I think this is what happened to Naomi, she was so focused on what happened to her, that she avoided giving credit for what she had. But I'm like her in that when it first happens, I want someone to give me reassurances this won't happen again, or that all will be okay. Unfortunately, it isn't possible to get this assurance, because most likely it will happen again. Back to the old saying, pick myself up from the fall and get on with life. Of course, most days I can do this, but occasionally, I'm afraid I do revert back to a pity party of one!