Sunday, January 3, 2010

JUST TODAY IN MY LIFE-Temperaments, cont'd

Yesterday, I wrote about the basic temperaments suggested by Tim LaHaye in his book and listed the personality test from Florence Littauer, who also uses the same temperaments.  Also available were the forms to fill out to determine your temperament combination.  Following is the scoring form.

Transfer all your Xs to the score shee and add up your totals.....

                                                             Sanguine           Choleric

                                                         Total______      Total______
                                                   Melancholy      Phlegmatic                                          

                                                     Total_____       Total______

Twelve Blends:

SanChlor-Strongest Extrovert-Sanguine will make them the salesmen type while the Choleric will provide necessary resolution.  Their interests are usually filled with a variety of activity and excitement.  This is their strengths while their weakness includes talking too much, highly opinionated and will express themselves loudly even before they know all the facts.  If they are the life of the party, they are lovable, but if they feel insecure or threatened, they can become obnoxious. As stated before, Simon Peter is a classic example of a New Testament SanChlor.

SanMel-Highly emotional people who fluctuate drastically.  They can laugh hysterically one minute and burst into tears the next. It's almost impossible for them to hear a sad tale or observe a tragic plight of another person without weeping.  They genuinely feel the grief of others. Almost any field is open to them especially public speaking, acting, music and the fine arts.  However, SanMels reflect an uninhibited perfectionism that often alienates them from others because they verbalize their criticisms.They are usually people oriented individuals who have sufficient substance to make a contribution to other lives.  King David is a classic illustration of the SanMel temperament.

SanPhleg-The easiest person to like is a SanPhleg. They are extremely happy people whose carefree spirit and good humor make them lighthearted entertainers sought after by others. Helping people is their regular business, along with sales of various kinds.SanPhlegs are naturally pro-family and preserve the love of their children-and everyone else for that matter. They would not purposely hurt anyone. The SanPhleg's greatest weaknesses are lack of motivation and discipline. They would rather socialize than work. Executives usually say "They are the nicest people I've ever fired." They rarely get upset over anything and tend to find the bright side of everything. The first century evangelist Apollos is about as close as Tim LaHaye found to illustrate a New Testament SanPhleg.

ChlorSan-Their lives are given over completely to activity. Most of their efforts are productive and purposeful. They are natural promoter and salesman, with enough charisma to get along well with others.  Certainly the best motivator of people and one who thrives on a challenge.  You will hear people say about these people "They only know two speeds: wide open and stop." They are usually the courtroom attorney who can charm the coldest-hearted judge and jury. A convincing debater, what he lacks in facts or arguments they make up in bluff or bravado. Whatever his professional occupation, his brain is always in motion. The weaknesses of these people, the chief of which is hostility, are as broad as their talents. There is anger, resentment, they not only get ulcers themselves, but gives them to others. Impatient with those who do not share their motivation and energy, they pride themselves on being brutally frank (some call it sarcastically frank). It is difficult for them to concentrate on one thing very long, which is why they often enlist others to finish what they started. Most ChloSans get so engrossed in their work that they neglect wife and family.  James, the author of the biblical book that bears his name, could well have been a ChlorSan.

ChlorMel-The ChlorMel is an extremely industrious and capable person. Such a person usually does well in school, possesses a quick, analytical mind, yet is decisive.  They develop into a thorough leader, the kind whom one can always count on to do an extraordinary job. Never take them on in a debate unless you are assured of your facts, for they will make mincemeat of you. They are apt to be autocratic, a dictator type who inspires admiration and hate simultaneously. They are usually a quick-witted talker whose sarcasm can devastate others. The Apostle Paul was a ChlorMel.

ChlorPhleg-They are not as apt to rush into things as quickly as the preceding extroverts because they are more deliberate and subdued.  They are extremely capable in the long run, although they don't particularly impress you that way at first. They are very organized people who combines planning and hard work.  People usually enjoy working with and for them because they know where they are going and have charted their course, yet they are unduly severe with people. Their slogan can be "Anything that needs to be done can be done better if it's organized." They are usually good parents and spouses as well as excellent administrators in almost any field. They are known to harbor resentment and bitterness. One is never quite sure whether they are kidding or ridiculing. No one can be more bullheadedly stubborn and it is very difficult for them to change their mind once it is committed. Acknowledgement of a mistake is not at all easy for them. Consequently, they will be more apt to make it up to those they have wronged without really facing up to their mistake. Titus, leader of the hundred or so churches on the Isle of Create may well have been a ChlorPhleg.

MelSan-Usually a very gifted person, fully capable of being a musician who can steal the heart of an audience. As an artist, he not only draws or paints beautifully but can sell their own work. They're very good in the field of education. The Melancholy in them will ferret out little known facts and be exacting in the use of events and detail while the Sanguine will enable them to communicate well with students. They're very emotional creatures, when circumstances are pleasing, they can reflect a fantastically happy mood.  But if things work out badly or rejected, insulted or injured, they drop into such a mood that their lesser sanguine nature drowns in the resultant sea of self-pity. They are easily moved to tears, feels everything deeply, but can be unreasonably critical and hard on others. They tend to be rigid and usually will not cooperate unless things go their way. They are often fearful, insecure people with a poor self-image which limits them unnecessarily.  Many of the prophets were MelSan-John The Baptist, Elijah and Jeremiah. They had a tremendous capacity to commune with God, were self-sacrificing people helpers who had enough charisma to attract a following, tended to be legalistic in their teachings and calls to repentance, exhibited a flair for the dramatic, and willingly died for their principles.

MelChlor-There is almost nothing vocationally which these people cannot do-and do well. They are both a perfectionist and a driver. They posses strong leadership capabilities.  They may found their own institution or business and run it capably, not with noise and color but with efficiency. Many a great orchestra leader and choral conductor is a MelChlor. They are extremely difficult people to please, rarely satisfying even themselves. Once they start thinking negatively about something or someone (including themselves) they can be intolerable to live with. Their mood follows their thought process. Although they do not retain a depressed mood as long as the other blends of the melancholy, they can lapse into it more quickly. Their penchant for detailed analysis and perfection tends to make them a nitpicker who drives others up the wall.  They not only "emote" disapproval, but feels compelled to castigate them verbally for their failures and to correct their mistakes-in public as well as in private.  Two great men of the Bible show signs of a MelChlor temperament, Dr. Luke and Moses.  The latter never gained victory over his hostility and bitterness. Consequently, he died before his time.  Many a MelChlor never lives up to his amazing potential because of the spirit of anger and revenge.

MelPhleg-Some of the greatest scholars the world has ever known have been MelPhlegs. They are not nearly as prone to hostility as the two previous melancholies and usually get along well with others. These gifted introverts combine the analytical perfectionism of the melancholy with the organized efficiency of the phlegmatic.  They are usually good-natured humanitarians who prefer a quiet, solitary environment for study and research to the endless rounds of activities sought by the more extroverted temperaments.  They are usually excellent spellers and good mathematicians. Most of the world's significant inventions and medical discoveries have been made by MelPhlegs.  They easily become discouraged and develop a very negative thinking pattern. Though ordinarily a quiet person, they are capable of inner angers and hostility caused by their tendency to be vengeful. They are unusually vulnerable to fear, anxiety, and a negative self-image. It is amazing that the people with the greatest talents and capabilities are often victimized by genuine feelings of poor self-worth. Their strong tendency to be conscientious allows them to let others pressure them into making commitments that drain their energy and creativity..  Humanitarian concerns can cause them to neglect their families.  Unless they learn to pace themselves and enjoy diversions that help them relax, they often become early mortality statistics. The Apostle John is the most likely candidate for a MelPhleg. 

PhlegSan-The easiest of the twelve temperaments blends to get along with over a protracted period of time. They are congenial, happy, cooperative, thoughtful, people-oriented, diplomatic, dependable, fun-loving, and humorous. They are usually good family people who enjoy the quiet life and loves their spouses and children. Since they inherited the lack of motivation of a phlegmatic and the lack of discipline of a sanguine, it is not uncommon for the PhlegSan to fall far short of their true capabilities. They often quit school, passes up good opportunities and avoids anything that involves "too much effort". Fear is another problem that accentuates their unrealistic feelings of insecurity. They like to build  self-protective shell around themselves and selfishly avoids involvement or commitment to activity that they need and that would be a rich blessing to their partner and children. Timothy, the gentle, faithful, good-natured spiritual son of Paul was a PhlegSan.

PhlegChlor-The most active of all phlegmatics is the PhlegChlor.  But it must be remembered that since they are predominantly a phlegmatic, they will never be a ball of fire. They have the potential to become a good counselor, for they're excellent listeners and are genuinely interested in other people.  Although they rarely offer their services to others, when clients come to their organized office where they exercise control, they are first rate professionals. Their advice will be practical, helpful and quite trustworthy.  They always to the right thing, but rarely goes beyond the norm. If their spouses can accept their passive life-style and reluctance to take the lead in the home, particularly in the discipline of their children, they can enjoy a happy marriage. In addition to the lack of motivation and their fears, they can be determinedly stubborn and unyielding.  They don't blow up at others, but simply refuses to give in or cooperate. They are not fighters by nature, but often lets their inner anger and stubbornness reflect itself in silence. The PhlegChlor often retreats to his "workshop or study" alone or nightly immerses their mind in TV.  No man in the Bible epitomizes the PhlegChlor better than Abraham in the Old Testament. Fear characterized everything he did in the early days.

PhlegMel-This blend is the most gracious, gentle and quiet. They are rarely angry or hostile and almost never says anything for which they must apologize (mainly because they rarely say much). They always do the proper thing, dresses simply, is dependable and exact. They are neat and organized in their working habits. They are handy around the house and as energy permits will keep their home in good repair.  If their spouses recognizes their tendencies toward passivity (but tactfully waits for them to take the lead in their home) they will have a good family life and marriage.  However, if the spouses resents their reticence to lead and be aggressive, they may become discontented and foment marital strife. Once a PhlegMel realizes that only their fears and negative feelings about themselves keep them from succeeding, they are usually able to come out of their shell and become an effective wife or husband. All phlegmatics work well under pressure.  Barnabas, the godly saint of the first-century church was probably a PhlegMel.

Tim LaHaye says that with twelve temperament blends to choose from, it should be easier for you to identify with one of them than it was when presented with only the four basic temperaments. Don't be discouraged, however, if you find that you don't quite fit into any one of the twelve either.  No two human beings are exactly alike.  Consequently, other variable could alter the picture sufficiently so that you will not fit any model precisely. Consider the following:

1. Different backgrounds and childhood training alter the expressions-Example: a SanPhleg raised by loving but firm parents will be much more disciplined than one raised by permissive parents.  A MelPhleg brought up by cruel, hateful parents will be drastically different from one raised by tender, understanding parents.

2. You may be objective when looking at yourself.

3.  Education and I.Q. will often influence the appraisal.

4.  There are a small percentage of people who have one predominant temperament with two secondary temperaments.

The temperament theory is not the final answer to human behavior, and for these and other reasons it may not prove satisfactory to everyone. But of all behavior theories ever devised, it has served as the most helpful explanation.

*****All information in this post came from Tim LaHaye's "Your Temperament: Discover Its Potential".

1 comment:

Agnes said...

We are all so simple, yet so complicated :-)